Since pivoting my business, I've been embracing my identity as a spiritual person who is also a business owner, no longer keeping the "woo woo" side of myself under wraps...or at least not as much as before. As I reflect back on the journey that brought me here, I'd like to share my experience with manifestation, especially the times when I really didn't do it right, and offer you advice on how to stay spiritual without trying to control or micromanage your life.

 My story

Shortly before I began my pivot from my previous niche to my current work, I was in a real season of hustling to reach a goal. Not just hustling in the working my tail off sense, but more in the spiritual/metaphysical sense. I was bound and determined to attract a certain number of clients into a new program of mine, and I was treating my spiritual practices like they were items on my to-do list, tasks that were required of me in order to win the favor of the universe. If I did all of these things and did...

I'm all about embracing change — it's right there in the name of this channel and in my title as a transformation coach. But I do not promote change for the sake of change, especially if it is motivated by fear or by running away from something. Today, we're going to talk about when not to make a change, and dive down to the roots of the issue.

What it is your motivation?

The first question to ask yourself is this: "What is my motivation for pursuing this change?" Let's be clear from the beginning that I'm not suggesting that there are any "right" or "wrong" answers here -- at least not as far as I am concerned. It is not for you to convince me that you are making the right decision; it is for you to be confident in yourself that you are making the right decision for you.

So, what is motivating this? Broadly speaking, is it fear or is it love? Is it something else? Explore this question -- maybe even try journaling about it.

Are you moving towards or away?

The next question...

Having a regular journaling habit is one of the practices I credit with keeping me feeling grounded, stable, and ready for whatever life throws at me. In times of transformation and change, it can be an easy habit to let slip, but it can also be an incredibly powerful habit if we continue to make time for it. Today, I'll share a few tips for journaling through a time of transformation, as well as a few prompts to get you started.

It doesn't need to be pretty

My first piece of advice about journaling is that it doesn't need to be pretty -- in fact, I'd even say it mustn't be pretty. Write as if no one will ever see what you're writing. And if you're concerned that someone actually will, then make it impossible for that to happen. Shred it, burn it, do what you have to do to ensure that you will be able to experience the freedom of writing without worrying about appearance.

When I say "appearance," that's all-inclusive. Your handwriting doesn't need to be pretty, and neither do the...

Today's new video is inspired by a lovely subscriber who asked about a previous post, "Embodying Your Future Self: How To Step Into Tomorrow's Identity Today." The question asked was how do we continue to embody that desired identity when the old ways of thinking and being keep coming up -- are there techniques for overcoming those old ways? In response, I am introducing one of my favorite techniques, EFT tapping, which we will use to voice and move past that negative self talk, the limiting beliefs, and the old self-sabotaging habits that come up. This technique uses light tapping on a sequence of acupressure points, and if you're already tuning out because you're feeling skeptical, give it a try. I'll share my own experience moving from extreme doubt to superfan, and I'll guide you through a tailored session just for you.

How EFT works

Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT, is a quick and effective technique for releasing an undesired emotion or limiting belief. It uses...

Have you ever started reading a book or watching a movie, only to find that you had no interest in continuing it – and yet you felt obligated to do just that? To read every single page or watch it until the credits rolled? Have you ever had a similar feeling about a job, a relationship, or an educational path – that feeling that “this might not be right for me, but darn it, it’s too late now to change my mind!” If so, you aren’t alone. This is a phenomenon called the sunk cost fallacy, and it’s exactly what we’ll be talking about today – what it is, and how it could be holding you back from your true potential.

What is the sunk cost fallacy?

The sunk cost fallacy tells us that because we have already invested in something (whether that be time, money, or energy), we will be more likely to feel obligated to that thing, even if it's no longer serving us. This keeps people in relationships that no longer work, careers that don't...

Today, I’m sharing with you my favorite thing (in my opinion, the one thing) that you need if you’re looking to uplevel your life, your business, or any area of your life. Spoiler alert: it’s all about the people that you surround yourself with. Don’t miss my tips for finding the supportive community you need, as well as why it’s so imperative that you find one.

 Find your folks

The biggest gamechanger for me in the last couple years, both in terms of my life and in terms of my business, has been the people that I surround myself with. When we think about the basis for most friendships, if you're anything like me, those relationships were probably formed at school or at work. Because those are the things that we have in common, it is easy for the habit to form of talking about those things, and more often than not that means talking negatively or complaining. I'm definitely guilty of this! Whether that was going out after work with my fellow...

Let me tell you a secret...

One of my favorite mindset tools to use in a time of transition, stress, or really any time in my life is affirmations. Using positive statements to reinforce a desired belief or behavior is incredibly powerful, and today, I'll be sharing a few of my favorites. These are affirmations that are especially helpful if you’re in a time of transformation.

Write your own

To start with, know that you can always write your own affirmations. In fact, these may be even more powerful than one that you find that someone else has written. To do this, first think about how you'd like to feel. Write down some notes about that, making sure the language is positive, and stating it in the present tense. For example, I want to feel at peace and free of stress — well, "stress" is negative, so I don't want to focus on that...Let's say, "I feel peaceful in all circumstances" or "I can always choose peace." Sometimes adding "I choose/am choosing to believe" in front of an affirmation helps...

Objections

Do you know that feeling where suddenly you aren't sure if you're in the right career, the right relationship, the right life, or all of those things at once? Doubt loves to creep up on us when we're feeling secure, and if you're anything like me, your knee jerk reaction is probably to talk yourself out of it as quickly as you can. Today, I'll share a new way of looking at doubt, the gifts that it brings, and the power of embracing it.

Faith (in anything) does not require a lack of doubt

When I was younger and a member of a faith community, I remember struggling a lot with doubt. Some small (or large) doubt would come up, I would feel insecure, and I would grasp onto the first warm, fuzzy feeling -- or a simple "truth" that sounded good -- I could to chase it away. I never let myself examine my doubts more closely, and I honestly thought that they were a reflection of a lack of faith. I know now how wrong this is — it's not that people who have faith or are sure of...