change Jan 11, 2021

One of my favorite mindset tools to use in a time of transition, stress, or really any time in my life is affirmations. Using positive statements to reinforce a desired belief or behavior is incredibly powerful, and today, I'll be sharing a few of my favorites. These are affirmations that are especially helpful if you’re in a time of transformation.

Write your own

To start with, know that you can always write your own affirmations. In fact, these may be even more powerful than one that you find that someone else has written. To do this, first think about how you'd like to feel. Write down some notes about that, making sure the language is positive, and stating it in the present tense. For example, I want to feel at peace and free of stress — well, "stress" is negative, so I don't want to focus on that...Let's say, "I feel peaceful in all circumstances" or "I can always choose peace." Sometimes adding "I choose/am choosing to believe" in front of an affirmation helps make it more believable to our subconscious minds.

I trust that I am on the right path.

I love this affirmation for its emphasis on trusting the process, trusting the journey, and being present in the moment.

I am grateful for every step of this journey.

This is a favorite of mine for its focus on both gratitude and prioritizing the journey over the destination. When we start to slip into a mindset of what we are lacking or what we wish we had, gratitude is a great path out of that.

I am learning and growing every day.

The English teacher in me loves the present continuous tense in this one, emphasizing that in this moment right now (and every day) I am learning and growing.

This is happening for my highest good.

This could feel like a stretch, especially if you feel stressed, frustrated, and overwhelmed. It may be helpful to add "I am choosing to believe..." to the beginning of this affirmation.

I am transforming like a caterpillar into a butterfly, preparing to spread my wings.

The image of a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly is a classic depiction of metamorphosis and positive change. Choose to see yourself and this time in your life in the same way.

What is meant for me will find me.

I've usually heard this as "What is meant for me will not pass me by," but in an effort to keep all of the language positive, I've adapted it slightly. Trust that whatever is for you will find its way to you, and that you are not too late, too early, or in the wrong place for that to happen.

This experience is making me stronger, more loving, more compassionate, more fully me.

You can adapt this one as well, choosing different descriptors that you'd like to claim for yourself.

I have everything I need.

This brings another focus to gratitude, to what I already have, either in the physical world or in my inner (emotional and spiritual) resources.


This isn't exactly an affirmation, but it's a quote that has given me great peace. It's from the TV show New Girl, and Jess's mom says it to her when she's upset about something: "It's just life. Don't take it so seriously."