EMBODYING YOUR FUTURE SELF: HOW TO STEP INTO TOMORROW'S IDENTITY TODAY

change Jan 04, 2021

When you're trying to achieve a new goal or become a different, better version of yourself, it can be challenging to create the kind of momentum that you need to actually achieve it. Today, we'll talk about embodying your future self today — why it works, as well as practices to help you do it.

Why bother?

First off, it's worth asking why we bother focus on embodying your future self rather than taking a different approach to achieving a goal. Let's look at the alternative, which is staying the same version of you and trying to keep up with tracking all of the new habits that this "better" version of you has. Maybe that's exercise, journaling, meditation, checking in with loved ones, or any other desired behaviors. If you stay the same version of yourself, then that's just a lot of work and a lot to track. Envisioning yourself as someone who just naturally does these things — and then accepting that you already are that person — is the way to speed up the...

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CRUSHING A GOAL IN THE NEW YEAR? SET YOURSELF UP FOR SUCCESS IN 3 EASY STEPS

goals Jan 01, 2021

Now is the time when many people start thinking about setting new goals, establishing new habits, or trying out a different, healthier lifestyle. If you’ve ever made a goal (or a New Year’s resolution) only to have it all fall apart a few days later, you aren’t alone. Here, I’m sharing my three favorite tips for actually crushing that goal you set.

Pick only one

If you're feeling ambitious, it's likely that you're also feeling prone to overdo it with the number of goals that you set. I've certainly been guilty of this, and I've seen myself fail quickly in the times that I thought crushing five goals at once was the way to go. You might have a health goal, a financial goal, a relationship goal, a reading goal, and any number of other goals -- that's great! Especially if you are focused on habit-based goals and you intend to track your progress, my advice is to start with just one. Choose the goal that is most important to you -- the keystone goal, if you...

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TUNE IN TO YOUR INTUITION IN 10 MINUTES OR LESS

intuition Dec 23, 2020

The idea of intuition can be elusive and mysterious – how do we tune in to it? Is that even something that little old me can do, or is it only for people with a “special” gift? Today, I’ll be sharing a few of my favorite ways that any of us can tune in to our intuitions in just 10 minutes.

Stay open to different ways of knowing

Before we dive into the different practices, we need to suspend whatever disbelief we have about the different ways that we can "know" things. For many of us, and certainly in Western culture, the idea of knowing something can only be connected with having a head-based understanding of it. In order for our intuition to be more accessible to us, we may need to allow for other kinds of intelligences to exist, whether that means feeling or a gut-level understanding. There are a number of nerve connections between our hearts and our brains for example, with scientific evidence showing that a far greater number of messages are sent from...

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REASONS I HELD ONTO MY OLD BUSINESS IDENTITY FOR TOO LONG

business Dec 21, 2020

Sometimes, you know it’s time for a change…and yet, you hang on too long to what’s familiar out of fear of the unknown, fear of judgment, and a whole host of other reasons. When it was time for me to make a significant pivot in my business, it took me longer than I would have liked to realize it and actually make the change. Here, I’m sharing the five reasons I held on too long, in hopes that if you see yourself here, you’ll be inspired to take action sooner than I was.

My ego

The first barrier to making the changes I needed to make in my business was none other than my ego. My previous business looked great and professional from the outside, and it definitely felt good to look like I had my act together. I'd written books, organized virtual retreats, and felt that I was starting to get the recognition that I'd wanted in my field. The idea of "throwing that all away" to start over again felt overwhelming, and not in a good way. How would it even feel...

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SIGNS YOUR INTUITION IS TRYING TO GET YOUR ATTENTION TO MAKE A CHANGE

change Dec 17, 2020

If you’re reading, watching, or listening to this, then there’s a good chance that you’re looking for confirmation that what you’ve been experiencing lately is actually your intuition trying to get your attention. When we first start listening to our intuition, it can feel intimidating to know if we’re doing it right – how can I distinguish between my intuition and other feelings and expectations in my life? I’ll be sharing a few signs and indicators that help you know if it is, in fact, your intuition tugging on your sleeve.

Nagging thoughts

For starters, are you having a nagging thought or feeling? This might be a thought that keeps coming back, even when you don't want it to. Maybe you keep thinking about a job posting that you saw or you keep wondering about a new business venture when you should be busy doing other things.

This might also be a nagging feeling. For me, when I have a doubt about something or I'm out of alignment, I...

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THINGS THAT MATTER MORE THAN SEO WHEN CHANGING YOUR BUSINESS

business Dec 16, 2020

If you’re like me a short time ago, thinking about making a change in your business or pivoting to another field, you’re probably also already trying to talk yourself out of it. Thinking about all of the factors that will need to be changed if/when you make this change is daunting – what about all of the old blog posts that link to each other, the email sequences, the freebies, the pins and posts and all of the things?! If that sounds familiar and gets your pulse racing, this is for you. Let’s reframe and shift the perspective to focus on what matters even more than SEO.

Like pulling on a thread and unravelling the whole sweater

If you've been in business for awhile, you've probably built a nice little web of your own -- I don't mean a network, but rather a web of your own making. Links from one blog to another, a social media post that directs readers to your blog, countless pins scattered all over the internet. It feels daunting and intimidating to even...

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5 BOOKS THAT DEFINED MY 2020 UPLEVEL

books Dec 15, 2020

2020 may not have been the year for goal crushing (what an understatement), and there’s a good chance the New Year’s resolutions we set at the end of 2019 probably seem laughable. But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t a transformative year. For me, I had set the goal to read more – to read 50 books, actually – and perhaps in part because I was at home even more than normal, I was actually able to do just that. Today, I’m going to share the five books that contributed most significantly to my 2020 uplevel – some of them just might surprise you.

*Disclaimer: I will post links to the books, which are affiliate links. This means that if you decide to purchase the book, a small percentage of the cost will go towards Borderless Stories and keeping this website running.

It all starts with hydration

The first book that really rocked my world this year was Quench, by Dana Cohen and Gina Bria. I would not necessarily have expected a book about...

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WHY I PIVOTED MY BUSINESS PUBLICLY

business Dec 14, 2020

2020 was the year of the pivot, in so many ways. From jobs going remote to school going virtual, we improvised and adapted with the best of them. I went into this season of transition confident that my business was one of the few things that would remain constant – I was already working remotely, so there was no need to expect anything to change. Well, just at the end of this bizarre year, in November actually, I had a wakeup call that it was time for basically everything about my business to change. I’m going to share here why I opted to do that publicly rather than just quietly making the changes behind the scenes.

Where we started

 If you're new around here or if you've been around for awhile and suddenly don't recognize *anything*...here's a little refresher about what Borderless Stories used to be. When we began, we were solely focused on providing coaching and support for people in intercultural relationships. Things were going well with that, too. In early...

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